tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-224038983871334157.post4137758670712809952..comments2023-10-19T09:09:08.553-05:00Comments on Totally Predictable Unpredictability!: Feeling about an inch tall....Pamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15806446399947873054noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-224038983871334157.post-31614349386657442022011-01-21T12:15:26.430-06:002011-01-21T12:15:26.430-06:00Laura,
Actually I think the person who gave you t...Laura,<br /><br />Actually I think the person who gave you that advice ("fake it til you make it") gave you some great advice. I actually mentioned that to my trainer yesterday, how people misperceive me as being so confident and sure of myself (to the point most people believe I am cocky or think I am always right, which is totally not the case).<br /><br />Laura I am NOT brave, every time I had to face the same people you are now it scared the life out of me, but I learned very early in life not to let people see my fear, to pretend I am brave no matter how I feel inside. That showing people your fear or weaknesses only lets them exploit it. Perception is reality Laura. You dont have to be brave or confident to get ahead as long as people think you are. You can puke before a meeting and cry afterwards but during it you have to pretend. Much of life is little more than being in a play, you play the role you need to the best you can at that moment. People dont usually care how you feel inside, they care about you executing. I have learned it is part of why I am so exhausted after a day at a client (something I never understood) but it is because of the amount of energy exerted being "on" and overcoming the fear and insecurity.<br /><br />But ironically this ability to cover is also part of my feeling of being stuck now. Because 1) people perceive me as being able to handle everything because I have faked it so long, so they dont feel I need/want help and 2) I have faked it on my own so long I dont know how to LET people who want to help actually do it.<br /><br />Please dont think I feel any more confident tahn you do Laura, it isnt true.Pamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15806446399947873054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-224038983871334157.post-43006723094328912322011-01-21T12:00:43.271-06:002011-01-21T12:00:43.271-06:00You're not alone! Was told in my review that I...You're not alone! Was told in my review that I need to project more confidence and fake it til I make it! Problem is I'll never "make it" here and don't want to. Unfortunately I don't have the confidence to just do something else. If nothing else, you are one of the bravest people I know. Hang in there and keep in mind you have to stay healthy to achieve any new goals you want to accomplish-such as your latest skiing adventure! LEDlauranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-224038983871334157.post-90111961305637225552011-01-20T19:16:42.377-06:002011-01-20T19:16:42.377-06:00Sigh.. so, the only one who can "unstick"...Sigh.. so, the only one who can "unstick" you is you. I can tell you to start by eating whether you want to or not. Set an alarm for every few hours and add some healthy calories to your body when it rings. <br /><br />Remember that we are taught to carry two phrases in our pockets at all times - one is that we are but the dust of the earth and the other that the world was created for me. These are not idle thoughts, but rather a reminder that sometimes we each perhaps feel a bit too full of our own worth and at other times we see far too little self value. <br /><br />It happens to us all; you are just more willing than many to face the feelings and take them on, just as you have taken on so many challenges. You don't need to look at how far you have come, though you can. Instead look at all you add to the lives of others - friends, clients, and a stadium full of people last fall. <br /><br />Then accept that you are slogging through the mud right now. Set the alarm and eat, and know that the mud will dry and you will, once again enjoy a period of smooth dry land.<br /><br />Hugs a'plenty,<br />IrisIrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06063075272796228154noreply@blogger.com